Everyone is different, so just like with a wedding, everyone's funeral or memorial will be a little different. Some religions require head coverings as with some sects of Judaism and Christianity. Many celebrations of life are structured to buck traditional ideas of mourning. It's not always possible to know in advance, but there are some general rules of courtesy you can follow:
- If you know the Deceased's requests, follow them. This can include that everyone wears bright colors, dons sunglasses, and bedecks their body in flashy jewelry. Or it can state that everyone wears black. Try to be respectful of the Deceased's last wishes either way.
- If you don't know, go with dark, muted, or somber colors. This doesn't have to mean black, but it's best to avoid flashy colors or wild patterns. Navy blue, gray, brown, dark maroon, and deep green can all be good choices.
- Try not to wear anything that will interrupt services such as squeaky shoes or jangling jewelry.
- Limit flashy accessories.
- Avoid sneakers or flip-flops.
- When in doubt, stick to business-casual. Slacks, button-downs, dresses, skirts, blouses, etc.
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